WHY CHOOSE MEDIATION: Mediation is a method of settling disputes YOUR way. The Mediator does not rule or decide the issues like a Judge. Mediation is faster than litigation, less expensive than litigation, and private. Whatever happens in mediation stays in mediation.
WHAT IS MEDIATION: Mediation is when parties who experience disagreement or divorce decide to settle with the help of a mediator. The mediator works to find points of agreement and assist those in conflict reach agreement on a fair result. A mediator is not a judge. The mediator will not and cannot impose a settlement in the case. YOU are responsible for negotiating a settlement acceptable to YOU.
WHERE DO WE GO FROM HERE: If you are contemplating divorce or having difficulties discussing divorce issues, mediation is a great place to start. Mediation is more amicable and less stressful on you and the rest of your family members. Children often suffer the most through the course of divorce. Mediation is an avenue of protecting the interests of your children through such a difficult process.
IMPORTANT GROUND RULES FOR MEDIATION
1) Come ready to participate 100%. Make the process your process.
2) Make constructive comments and suggestions. We will not blame, attack, or engage in put-downs and will ask questions of each other for the purposes of gaining clarity and understanding.
3) Be courteous and refrain from speaking over one another, take turns speaking and not interrupt each other.
4) Show respect for all parties and the mediator. Recognize that, even if we do not agree with it, each of us is entitled to our own perspective.
5) Attack the problem, not each other or the mediator. We agree to make a conscious, sincere effort to refrain from unproductive arguing, venting, or narration, and agree to use our time in mediation to work toward what we perceive to be our fairest and most constructive agreement possible.
6) Listen carefully and specifically to any option or idea that is presented. Keep an open mind, listen respectfully and sincerely and try to understand the other person's needs and interests. We will not dwell on things that did not work in the past, but instead will focus on the future we would like to create
7) We will speak up if something is not working for us in mediation. We will request a break when we need to.
8) During mediation it is not unusual to call a caucus. A caucus is an opportunity to communicate with the mediator privately. Anyone can request a caucus.